Peace Corps Goals 2 and 3....Check

Our Andrea 

There was only one thing missing, and that was my oldest daughter, Andrea.  She had decided not to make this journey.  She had a list full of valid reasons.  Eric, my son, Emily, my daughter and I completely understood and were very accepting of why Andrea didn’t come, but during peaks and valleys of the trip we felt the void none-the-less.  The conversation often fell to, what would Andrea have said, what would Andrea have done?  And then we laughed…knowing.  With the miracle of technology we were able to have her share our trip and keenly felt her presence and sense of humor throughout.

The Airport..They have arrived!

Eric and Emily arrived in Togo on August 17th.  I had been looking forward to their arrival for at least six months.  I worried a little, maybe a lot about them taking their precious time off, and spending their well-earned money to come to Togo.  I would bring it up occasionally when speaking to them on the phone.  Are you sure?  It’s not comfortable, or pretty.  It’s hard.  Are you sure that you want to spend your time and money coming here?  It’s okkkkkk if you don’t.  Each time they reassured me, until finally and to their relief I stopped asking.  So, the day had come for them to arrive.  I was beyond excited.  I had seen Eric six months earlier when I went to Spain, where he works and lives.  I had not seen Emily for an entire year.  We both have remarked this is the longest stretch of time we’ve ever gone without seeing each other. 



Eric is a world traveler, but Emily prefers to stay a little closer to home in Overland Park, Kansas.  Her interest and determination in coming here surprised me.  They were only going to be here six full days, so I had to make it as efficient as possible.  It’s not easy to be efficient in Togo.  Their flight arrived at 3:05 A.M.  With the help of Peter, the Peace Corps Security Officer I arranged to have a driver pick me up and take me to the airport at 2:00 A.M.  

House in Lome

I have become friends with Francoise, a woman who lives and works in Lome.  She and I are working on a project together.   Francoise has a house located about six blocks from the Peace Corps Headquarters.  She has generously invited me to stay at her house anytime I’m in Lome.  Staying in hotels in Lome is the one thing that I will never get used to, and the thing I hate to do most during my service here.  I hate the thought of it more that bush taxis.   Even the best of them are always moldy and mosquito or other rodent ridden.  Often dirty.  Nothing works; not the shower or the supposed air conditioning, or the advertised wireless capability.   I’ve learned always to bring my own sheet with me, for obvious reasons.  Francoise was going to be out of the country in August, so I asked her if Emily, Eric and I could stay in her house during the Lome part of their visit.  It was a comfortable way to kick-off the trip and to end the trip.  The house is quite lovely.  She has a patio and pool in her back yard, and a little patch of real grass around the patio and pool.  There’s no real grass in Togo, so when I go to Francoise’s I always take my shoes off and walk around in the soft, green grass.  It’s the little things.

The pool (obviously)

The driver showed up at the house on time….good omen.  I got to the airport about an hour before plane landed.  I was so excited.  I couldn’t wait to see them, and touch them and put my arms around them.  The airport guards kept the few people who were waiting for arrivals outside the arrival door.  A guard stopped and talked with me.  He asked me who I was, and who I was waiting for.  Peace Corps almost always solicits a welcoming, positive response, and it did this time as well.  I told him I was waiting for my children to arrive.  I could see that my excitement and happiness made him happy as well.  When the plane arrived no one was allowed in.  You couldn’t even see in the room where they would pass through customs.  I stood by the door that would open and shut occasionally hoping to get my first glimpse.  There they are!!!!  There’s Eric, there’s Emily!!! They hadn’t seen me yet, but my heart soared!  The guard saw me,  and escorted me into the room where no one else was allowed.  Eric, Emily and I were overjoyed to see one another.   The occasion exceeded all expectations. 

They passed through customs with ease.  Eric generously tipped a man who was showing him what to do next.  He unknowingly gave the man about a months’ salary.  No wonder they like Americans!!  Once through customs my driver was outside waiting to drive us to the house.  It was about 3am.  We were exhausted.  After taking a tour of the house and visiting for a little while we all three fell asleep for about four hours.  Emily and I woke up first.  We tried to rouse Eric, but he kept saying, just a minute, just a minute (Ha! Some things never change).  Emily and I walked down the road to a street vendor where I always go for breakfast when I’m in Lome.  It’s also near the Peace Corps Headquarters.  There were three other PC Volunteers there eating breakfast at a plastic table.  Emily and I sat with them, ordered, and visited with them.  To say Emily is a picky eater is putting it mildly.  I know she was worried that she might starve to death in Togo.  Well this would be her first cuisine experiment.  This little street vendor happens to make the best egg sandwiches ever, and they have a version of café au lait’ that is always a treat for me when I come to Lome.  Emily and I had an egg sandwich and each had a café au lait’.  We ordered an egg sandwich to take back for Eric.  She liked the egg sandwich and loved the café’ au lait’!  It’s brave eating at these little street café’s for the first time.  It’s a little like a concession stand at a ballpark.  They have stools, and a canopy that hangs 

Emily making foo-foo, traditional African Meal

over the seating.  From the outside and until you duck under the canope, all you can see is the stools and a row of customers butt’s.  There are also lots and lots of flies.  They wash their pans/skillets and dishes in a big bucket right in the street.   It’s funny how arduously they sit and scrub, and scrub and scrub the pans until they shine using very dirty water.  The cook stands at the petroleum powered stove, breaking eggs with a knife and a flick of his wrist.  He has a method and a rhythm to his cooking.  He uses one knife for everything, and one cutting board which probably gets washed at the end of the day in probably the same dirty water from the morning.  The menu is as follows…egg sandwiches with or without mayonnaise and piemont (spicy hot).  The egg sandwiches are served on very good French bread. Also on the menu is spaghetti with tomato sauce with the option of cut up Togo hotdogs and/or an egg on top.  Rolls of toilet paper are strategically placed along the counter to be used as napkins.   I happen to like everything at this little cafeteria.  Apparently they have good word of mouth advertising because the stools and plastic table are almost always full.  They were smart enough or lucky enough to locate their restaurant between the Peace Corps and a business school.  I went one morning with PCV Solomon.  It was his first time there.  It was full of people.  We had to wait for a stool.  Solomon said, “What is this Togo's version of Wall Street?”  All the customers were Togolese in American clothes, most of them looking like any young businessman/woman you would see in the States, dressed in nice crisp shirts and ties.  This little food stand has done so well that recently they moved to an actual indoor building across the road.  To my surprise, last week when I went, the stand was gone.  Someone directed me to the building across the road.  The manager, who not only knows me, but all the regulars, looked very proud indeed, with his new establishment.  



Emily was taking it all in…..eyes wide.  Her first cuisine in Tchekpo.  I think she felt relief on this first day of her trip that she might not starve in Togo after all.

After breakfast, we walked the few blocks back to the house and found Eric up and eager to get started with the day.  He ate the egg sandwich we brought him and we headed out for the Peace Corps Headquarters.   There, I introduced them to anyone I could get to stop long enough.  We toured the PCV Lounge, met a few more volunteers, and went upstairs to see who was there from Administration.  Everyone knew Emily and Eric were coming, and everyone made a big to-do…laughing, taking their hand, sometimes hugging them.  I was happy for all of them to be able to meet each other. 

The Phoenicia

Me and Eric

After the Peace Corps Headquarters we walked about six blocks down to the ocean beach.  It’s the same road I travel when I spend the night in Lome.  I showed them the Phoenecia Hotel, where I usually stay.  We took a picture of the hotel.  Emily said, “Now I’ll have some idea where you are when you tell me you are at the Phoenecia.”  Uh yuh..this is where I usually stay when I'm in Lome, and this is one of the better hotels that I stay in.  Capice?  We reached the ocean front beach.  It’s beautiful to look at.  I have spent very little time there.  Several reasons.  PCV’s have been cautioned that it is not very safe.  We should never go at night, as robbers roam the beach, preying on foreigners, and for some sad reason, it serves as a latrine for Togolese.  They go there to poop.  You must keep your eyes open wherever you walk.  Emily and Eric could not, would not believe that to be true, but once on the beach they could see it was.  However, it is possible to walk the beach and avoid robbers and poop; so we did.  It was a beautiful and peaceful as we walked by fishermen readying their nets and boats for a day of fishing.  The day was sunny and warm, but not so warm that it was uncomfortable.   We stopped and talked with a few fishermen and had our pictures taken in front of one of their boats named ‘Remember’.  It was a perfect way to start our adventure. 



We walked the beach for awhile and then caught a taxi to go to the marche for lunch.  All along I wanted to impress Emily and Eric with my French and my negotiating skills with taxi drivers and vendors.  All along I saw a bemused if not respectful look on Eric’s face.  He like my fellow PCV’s is incredulous that I switch from French to English from one word to the next, mid sentence, without flinching.  I don’t really realize that I do it.  I simply speak French until I don’t know a word and then I will slip in an American word without skipping a beat, as if this is a perfectly acceptable, hoping that 1) it will go unnoticed and 2) they will somehow understand my English injections.  It is noticed more often than not…and I am not understood more often than not.  Eric…being quite linguistic capable, was quite confused about my methods.  Hey….it works for me.  I negotiated in French with a cab driver to take us to the Grand Marche.



The marche…..Pure Afrique.  We were to meet John my PCV Program Trainer, and Alex my Program Director for lunch.  We got there a little early so had time to roam the marche and buy a few items.  Now Emily and Eric relied on me to disquiter (negotiate prices) with vendors.  I do think I impressed them.  Ha! How would they know?  The marche was wildly crowded, bustling with cars and vendors and people walking shoulder to shoulder, many carrying massive items on their heads.  I stole a couple glances at Emily and Eric.  Emily was wide-eyed, snapping photos of the chaos that surrounded her.  Eric was curious and pensive; studying everything with the eye of the world traveler he is.  Neither seemed afraid.  Both appeared to know this experience was something quite unique and special.  At one point we were looking through the items of a row of vendors.   Eric had found some things that captured his attention while Emily and I roamed a little way around the corner.  This is where I almost died, and Emily almost witnessed my death.  I was standing very near the street, where cars and moto’s whiz by.  I had a light-weight backpack on my back.  The backpack had only nylon strings that fastened around my shoulders, under my arms.  All of a sudden a moto came by, turned the corner and the moto handlebars hooked under the strings of my backpack, pulling me into the street and knocking me down.  I don’t know if the moto driver was aware that he had caught me.  I think probably he was, though he didn’t slow down, but luckily his handlebars turned enough that it dislodged from my backpack.  By this time I was already on the ground.  Everything was kind of a blur.  I saw Emily above me.  She had a look of horror on her face.  While lying on my back on the ground I could hear her and some of the vendors standing over me asking me if I was ok.  I really wasn’t sure if I was.  I didn’t see how I could be, but I was…I was ok.  Luckily I had not hit my head and, really, by some miraculous feat I hadn’t hurt myself….  There were five or six vendors who were very attentive and concerned and insisted that I sit on a little squat bench for awhile.  After a few minutes I felt I was ok.  I tried to get up, but they; all of the vendors and Emily made me sit a while longer.  Soon Eric moseyed around the corner, completely unaware of the happenings.  He saw me on the bench and saw Emily and the vendors hovering over me.  Emily relayed the story to Eric.  I'm not sure he fully grasped the situation.  He just looked so confused.  I finally insisted I was ok and it was time to move on, although I felt a little spacey.  I think Emily and I both knew that it had been a very dangerous situation.  We just proceeded, as if nothing happened?  Yep.  We hit a few more vendors then headed to the restaurant.  Welcome to Togo!

John, Emily, Eric, Alex

The restaurant…Al Sultans, is one of my two favorites in Lome.   It is owned and operated by a Lebanese family, and quite popular with ex-pats,  yo-vo’s and PCV’s.  Their food is excellent.  Fresh vegetables, nicely cooked entrees. They also put forth effort and take pride in the presentation of their food.  I love their Greek salad, their fatoush salad, humus and my favorite is their crispy chicken, which is basically chicken fingers.  It’s all very delicious.  Eric, Emily and I arrived about a half hour before Alex and John.  We sat at a table outside, enjoyed the breeze and all the activity in the heart of the marche.  Right next door about thirty Muslims were gathering for their noon prayer, spreading their matts out on the sidewalk, taking their shoes off, kneeling and bending over touching their heads to the ground; chanting.  Ahhh Afrique!  



Alex and John showed up on time.  We had a lovely lunch. John is a big teddy bear of a man; soft-spoken, kind, sweet, extremely serious about his work.  He has two masters with a specialty in renewable energy so I thought that he and Eric would have a lot to talk about.  John and Alex are both born and raised in Togo, but both speak fluent English.  Alex attended American University in Washington D.C. and lived in Washington D.C. for six years.  I love Alex.  He can and is serious when he needs to be, but he has a wonderful sense of humor.  I go out of my way just to make him laugh, so I can hear it.  Eric gave me an awesome safari like hat before I came here.  Alex loves it.  He always tells me he'd like to have one just like it.  I plan on giving it to him when I leave.  Lunch was pleasant.  I was happy that these four people I care about could meet.



After lunch we caught a taxi back to the house, sat by the pool and visited for awhile, and then took a nap (repose.)  When we woke up we walked back to PCV headquarter.  I introduced Emily and Eric to a few more people, and arranged to meet some of the PCV’s for dinner that night at my other favorite restaurant; Philopat’s  We stayed at the Peace Corps office until time for dinner.   I double checked with Peter the PC Security Officer that our driver would pick us up the next morning around 8am to go to Kpalime.  The restaurant was located right at mid-point between Peace Corps Headquarters and Francoise house.  Dinner was lovely.  We had salad and pizza and wine, and four Peace Corps Volunteers joined us.  After dinner we walked back to the house, sat around the pool for just a little while and then fell into bed exhausted.  I fell asleep so happy and content and thinking how smooth everything had gone so far, with the exception of my near-death experience.  I really couldn’t believe our good fortune….cause nothing is easy in Togo.

Me and Ashley

The next morning, again Emily and I went to my favorite little vendor for egg sandwiches, and again Eric wasn’t up so we brought him back a sandwich.  Emily and I walked to the PC Hdqrts to meet the driver and Ashley.  Ashley is a Peace Corps Volunteer who lives in Kpalime.  Ashley was the PC Volunteer I was closest with during training.  We spent a lot of time together.  I admire her, and have a lot of fun with her.  On Halloween last year there was a PCV party.  Ashley went as Beyonce and I went as Jay-Z.  Mmmhmmm. Ashley was waiting for us at the Peace Corps Office when we arrived and once again the driver showed up on time.  Ashely had really been looking forward to meeting Emily and Eric.  We drove to the house to pick up Eric and the luggage.  The drive to Kpalime was fraught with danger!!!  Our driver drove about 100 MPH the entire way.  I’m not exaggerating.  Emily took a picture of the speedometer to have proof.  Ashley was in the front seat.  Eric, Emily and I were in the back.  I have taken cars like this before.  The driver driving so fast that I am in a constant state of anxiety; maneuvering simultaneously with the driver, bobbing my head this way and that as we round curves or pass a car; as if the gravity of my bobbing head will help just enough to ease the car in the direction or angle I think it needs to go to avoid catastrophe.  And so it was with this trip, with this driver to Kpalime.  I could feel tension in Emily.  I could see her big eyes and the worry on her face; looking at the driver, the road, the speedometer.  Pure fear.  In juxtaposition; Ashley sat in the front seat with not a care in the world, reviewing paperwork.  Ashley having acclimated to the ways of Togo.  Emily kept looking at me, pleading with her eyes to intervene.  She said, “Mom, he is falling asleep…I can see him in the rear-view mirror…his eyes keep closing.  He’s nodding OFF!”  Eric was

Dinner at my house...They are SO brave!

worried as well.  His fists clenched so tightly that his knuckles were white.  I hated seeing them so worried.  I told Ashley that the driver seemed to be falling asleep.  She non-chalantly looked at him and quietly asked him, “Are you tired?  Are you falling asleep?”  He replied, “No, no…I’m fine.”  He didn’t slow down and he continued to nod his head in drowsiness.  Ashley went back to her reading….I prayed we would get to Kpalime without incident.  My eyes darting back and forth between the driver and the road…bobbing my head, hoping the force of that would save us from peril.  Emily and Eric remained probably as alert as they’ve ever been in their lives.  We made it.  Three hours; Usually, at least a four hour trip.  So…Emily and Eric experienced their first real Togo experience.   Danger, at every turn.  Not danger from lions, or tigers or natives, but the dangers of the road.  Every day, any trip you take; on moto or bush taxi could be your last.

Eric, Chantal, Ashley

Arriving safely in pretty Kpalime was a welcome respite.  Kpalime, where Ashley lives, is a lovely little village at the foot of mountains.  It is the artisan center of Togo.  Ashley had arranged a wonderful couple of days for us there.  We stayed in a delightful hotel with a scenic view of the mountains that was located just outside of town, and only a few short blocks from Ashley’s house.  We checked in, were delighted with the accommodations, and then quickly left for our appointment with Chantal.  Chantal is an artisan who designs and produces batik fabric.  A variety of designs are carved into wooden blocks by her brother.  The wooden blocks are dipped into hot wax and placed on the fabric, leaving an imprint.   The fabric is then dyed, leaving the imprint of the design.  Voila!  Batik!  Chantal has benefitted greatly from the help and advice of the Peace Corps.  She now exports her products, has a website, employees, and she makes a very comfortable living for herself and her children.  She is a successful example of entrepreneurism we like to spotlight in Togo Peace Corps.  When we arrived at Chantals house, Chantal, a couple of her sisters, and a couple of her children were waiting.  Chantal’s children are beautiful, as is she.  She has a little baby of nine months.  Chantal named the baby Ashley Rose after Ashley the Peace Corps Volunteer.    They had two tables set up, the white fabric ready to imprint and blocks of wood for us to choose for our designs.   It was SO much fun to do this.   Eric, Emily and I thoroughly enjoyed the hospitality and the creative process of designing our own fabric.  Eric and Emily went first, as there were just two tables to work on, and then I worked on my fabric.  We each had time to look through the rest of Chantal’s beautiful display of products; purses, backpacks, shirts, skirts etc; in addition to her fabrics that had yet to be made into something.  We each made several purchases and were each very enthusiastic about the items we purchased to take home to loved ones.  While I was finishing my batik and Emily and Eric were perusing Chantal’s products, Chantal made us a delicious little snack of fried yams and a spicy sauce.  It was delicious.  We got to choose the color of our batik and stayed long enough to observe the process of dying the fabric.  We returned the next morning before our journey to Tchekpo to pick up our finished “work of art.” 



“No rest for the wicked”  Immediately after finishing our batik Ashley had moto’s waiting for each of us at Chantal’s and we were on our way to the mountains to tour a coffee plantation.  The coffee plantation is another successful business the Peace Corps helped grow.  The moto ride was exhilarating fun and a beautiful scenic ride through the mountains and mountain villages…higher, and higher we climbed until finally after about half hour ride we reached the top.  Once there we were greeted by the owner of the plantation.  He guided us through a fascinating tour of his coffee plantation, stopping all along the way to explain the process and each step of the process to the grand finale of roasting the beans and packaging them.  He also opened a mature Coffee fruit plant, showed us, and had us taste it.  Observing the roasting of the beans reminded us how very primitive this business still is.  The beans are roasted over a small clay oven in a primitive metal pot outside in a thatched roof paillot, with a woman constantly, manually stirring and taste testing the beans until perfect.  The packaging would fool anyone about the primitive process the beans had gone through.  The packaging is as bright, and nice as any coffee packaging you would see in the U.S.  The packaging technique was just one of many advisory contributions the Peace Corps made so that this man would have a viable product to not only sell locally, but also to export.  After the tour we were all tired, but excited to take the final moto ride back down the mountain.  Our moto drivers had patiently waited for us to finish our tour, and a couple of them had even joined us.  The ride down the mountain was even more fun; faster!  The weather was beautiful and the view supreme. 

It had been a very full day indeed.  From the danger ridden ride from Lome to our very own art project and the coffee tour.  We were all famished though so we ended the day at a lovely little restaurant in Kpalime.  We were served a delicious meal and ice cold beer.  From there we went back to our hotel.  Eric immediately hit the sack.  Emily and I stayed up and chatted and posted pictures on facebook for awhile.  All three of us were sharing a king-size bed.  Oy veh!  Emily and I could not stop giggling about it, and laughing that Eric’s back was to us as if he refused to acknowledge the fact that he was sharing a bed with his sissie and his mommy.  Emily and I snapped a few pics, unbeknown to him, as evidence….giggling uncontrollably the whole time.  Then we fell fast asleep, awakening the next morning to the sounds of roosters.  

We had a lovely and delicious light breakfast at the hotel.  Emily and I walked the few blocks to Ashley’s house and visited with her for a short while.  Eric was feeling sick to his stomach….thought it was something he ate…thought he might have a parasite.  I was worried, but know that this is a common ailment here in Africa and hoped that it would quickly dissipate, which it did.  I know he was worried and imagning that he might possibly have some parasite that was growing bigger and bigger inside him with every passing minute.  It was not that far-fetched for him to think that!  Once again Ashley came through for us, and found a driver to take us to Tchekpo.  About a four hour drive.  When we were saying our goodbyes and piling in the car I heard Ashley instructing him to ‘aller lentement’….go slow!  And he did…or a very reasonable pace the entire way.  He spoke English, was pleasant and told us a bit about his life.  We all relaxed, and had an opportunity to kind of rest for awhile from the busy day before.  I was very excited.  We were going to Tchekpo for three days.  My village.  With my kids.  I must say I had been so curious about what it would be like for them, how it would go, what they would think.  I was quite excited about seeing all this through someone elses eyes.  I’ve been here for over a year and am quite acclimated to everything.  The climate, the people, the traditions.   It was hard to imagine how they would process it.

We pulled up to the entrance of my house.  I could detect that Emily and Eric were a little apprehensive, but at the same time glad to finally be in my village, not to mention out of the car.  Before we had all our feet and luggage out the door, Mahsoblee and Regina ran up to us and greeted us.  Mahsoblee is the little, six year old girl I’ve been helping and Regina is her BFF.  They are a pair! A hilarious, adorable pair of little girls, who, during waking hours are never more than a shout away from each other.  They repeat each other, and mimic each other.   I thought it was a perfect entre for Eric and Emily, into my world.  Mahsoblee and Regina come to my house daily.  We sit and laugh and talk, and sometimes blow bubbles or practice English.  I teach them basic English words and phrases and they are rewarded with a piece of chewing gum or candy.   At some point during their visit they both tilt their head up and say…shoo-ing gummm, shoo-ing gumm; which I give them.   It was so fine that Mahsoblee and Regina were there waiting for us.  When I introduced them, Mahsoblee and Regina, without a moment’s hesitation and with wide, wide smiles, ran up and hugged Eric and Emily’s knees.  Emily and Eric knew all about Mahsoblee, and I know they were delighted to meet her.  The driver helped carry our suitcases in.  Emily and Eric, now adjusting themselves to their third new environment.  First Lome, Second Kpalime and now Tchekpo.  Three very different experiences to be sure.  It was now Friday.  We

Emily and Eric with some neighbors

would stay in Tchekpo until Monday afternoon.  I really had nothing planned in concrete for Tchekpo.  For one thing…you cannot plan anything in concrete in Tchekpo.  I had three things I wanted to be sure and do, but nothing on a schedule.  I wanted them to go to a Tom-Tom dance, meet the chief and go to my church on Sunday.  School was not in session for the summer.  I was disappointed they would not be able to experience the schools, as I know they and the students would have very much enjoyed that.  As fate would have it, my church was not having service on this particular Sunday.  There was going to be a special service in Ahepe about twenty miles down the road.  The bishop was going to be there.  I so wanted them to attend my church.  It’s such a good representation of things that are good here.  I decided we would go to Ahepe on Sunday though….I thought they would enjoy it, and they would have a chance to ride in a bush taxi, which I felt they must experience at least once. 

My House

So….we came in the house and got situated.  My villagers always give me a chance to settle in when I return from a trip.  Over time I’ve noticed that they appear to consciously afford me this courtesy, and I appreciate it.  But after an acceptable amount of Togo-time the procession started.  One by one and sometimes in threes and fours and fives, adults and children filtered in to meet my kids. They all felt they knew them, not just from me talking about them, but I have a picture collage on my wall of my family.  Everyone has gone through the drill of looking at the pictures and identifying who is who.
 Emily and Eric had brought a bevy of gifts for children and people they had heard me talk about.  Wonderful, fun gifts.   They showed me everything, as I oooohed and awed, knowing how these things would delight my peeps.  Emily and I organized them all, lining up the cadou’s (gifts) in the hallway out of sight.  They had a few very specific gifts for dignitaries (my favorites), such as the Chief, and Mahsoblee, Honu Koffi, David and Moses.  The rest we would distribute as we saw fit.  There were glow necklaces and bracelets, bubbles, hats, Frisbees, magic markers and coloring books, etc., etc., etc..  Oh boy!!!!

Mahsoblee, Eric, Honou, Komi, Emily

I had two moments that were lovely beyond measure; and many, many moments that just made me so deeply happy and content.  Watching Emily give her gifts to Mahsoblee and Regina was one of the special moments.  She had bought brightly colored little visor hats.  She sat on my front porch and artistically wrote their names on them and drew a little picture as they both stood watching with anticipation.  The hats were adorable.  Mahsoblee and Regina loved them, and ran giggling out of the compound to show their friends and families.  Ohhhh Mahsoblee and Regina came back almost hourly to see what else they could get, and they did get many other little tidbits, but it just made me so happy to see Emily and Eric with them, laughing, talking…..loving them as much as I do.  The second moment was when Honou Koffi came over.  Honou is definitely one of my very favorite people here.  I’ve written about him in my blog a few times.  He is handicapped and gets around on crutches.  He had just returned that very day from the Peace Corps first annual Camp Joie in Pagala.  A camp for handicapped youth in Togo.  Two boys from my village went.  Honou and Komi.  They had been looking forward to going for weeks.  I’m beyond impressed with what my fellow Peace Corps volunteers accomplished with this camp.  Honou and Komi came back armed with information and tools to start a club for handicapped here in Tchekpo.  They also came back with a new and fierce self-confidence that was palpable.  Honou knew Emily and Eric would be here when he returned from camp, and he was very much looking forward to meeting them, checking and re-checking with me that he wouldn’t miss them while he was at camp.  Honou and Komi showed up the first afternoon Emily and Eric were here.  I had asked them to get Honou a really nice French-English Dictionary.  He is President of the English Club at the Lycee (highschool).  Honou and Komi were both glowing and ebullient, fresh from their week at camp.  We visited for awhile on the porch.  Then Emily went in the house to get his gift.  They had also gotten him a really nice book bag.  Thoughtfully they had chosen a bag narrower than most, thinking it would be easier for him to manipulate this bag with his crutches.  They were right.  Inside the bag was the dictionary, and pens and pencils and a notebook and a calculator, and a few other school supplies.  Though we didn’t have anything specific for Komi because he hasn’t been one of the regular people I talk about, we were able to put together a nice little package for him.  They gave him a really nice wind breaker and a light weight book bag, with supplies in it.  They were both thrilled.  But when Honou opened the bag and pulled out the dictionary…well that was the moment I was waiting for, and that was the moment that was beautiful to share with Emily and Eric.  He slowly peaked in the bag, and slowly lifted the dictionary out.  He was speechless for a few moments, and then he just kept saying wow….wow….wow!!! and he laughed softly and a little nervously.  He truly could not believe his good fortune.  A few months ago Honou came over to my house; worried and fretting.  He told me he thought he was cursed, and maybe his house was cursed.  We talked about it.  I tried to convince him he was not cursed, but he wasn’t so sure.  After his week at camp and his gifts, I asked him if he still thought he was cursed.  With a very bright smile, he said, “no,  I think I’m blessed.”  The other side of this moment was the look on Emily and Eric’s faces when they saw just how much that little book meant to Honou.  I’m sure picking that up during their busy days before the trip was a small nuisance, and probably they had no idea of the significance or the joy it would bring.  The looks on their faces was first love, I think, and second surprise.  Surprise that the gift of this little book brought this seventeen year old boy such joy.  It was a beautiful, enriching moment, for all of us.  Whenever we are complaining that we don’t have the latest toy, or the newest fashion…it will be difficult not to reflect back on this moment, and try to make sense of the world we live in.  They got up to leave, Honou and Komi.  Honu on his crutches with his new book bag on his back, the tags still hanging off of it, and Komi limping beside him.  We watched in silence and contentment as they maneuvered their broken bodies through the yard and out of the compound door.  None of us had words to express our feelings.  Nothing really needed to be said.

Leah

The rest of day was filled with visitors.  Aloughba, Margarite, David, Rachel…so many people.  So welcoming and happy to meet my children.  Leah, my thirteen year old water girl, friend and most constant companion in Tchekpo stopped by often.  We took her into the hall and let her have the pick of the gifts.  She chose an adorable purple wig made of shiny streams of paper.  One of the many gifts that Emily and Eric brought that I thought was so fun!  That night, after dark, we went over to Margarites hut.  She has eight children.  We took the tube of necklaces that glow in the dark.  Their compound was pitch black except for the remnants of coals burning in the nightly fire they use to cook their dinner.  Eric and Emily and I were excited to show them the necklaces.  Ohhhhh they loved them.  The kids were laughing and so excited.  As we left their compound we could here laughter and squeals of delight all the way back to my house.  We still had a few more visitors.  David, my French tutor and community partner, and his fiancée Rachel stopped by.  David and Rachel both speak English, so, a little language reprieve for Emily and Eric..(oh ok, me too).  As they were getting ready to leave, Fidel, my next door neighbor knocked on the door.  I love Fidel.  He’s an administrator for the high school, and he also teaches German.  He’s a gentle-man.  Very sweet and funny.  On this

Fidel and his two wives!

night he was just giddy with excitement.  He had just taken his second wife!!!  He brought both of them to introduce them to us.  He was giggling and laughing, and probably more than a little drunk.  The women looked happy indeed to be his wives.  It was a particularly fun visit with a lot of laughs.  I think Fidel was one of Eric and Emily’s favorites, I know he is one of mine.

We all slept well that night.  The next day was my 61st birthday.  Aloughba and David came by to take us to a tom-tom dance.  It was actually a celebratory tom-tom dance held for a funeral.  The mother of a man who I know quite well.  We were welcome guests.  He was honored and appreciated that we were there to pay our respects to his mother.   After the somber and dignified burial service the dancing and celebration began.  Emily and Eric both enjoyed this day.  It was a cultural phenomenon, specific to Togo.  The children, the dancing, the drums, the drinking.  I was coerced to dance.  It didn’t take much coercion.  I explained to Emily and Eric that this particular dance and dancing is a voodoo tradition that is all about being filled with the spirit.  People would get up at will, and start to dance.  Other people would stand around them fanning them and wiping the perspiration off their face with a cloth.  That is part of the ritual.  When the spirit moves them they get up and dance.  It’s something like talking in tongues, or chanting or meditation.  It’s a place one goes to where the material world is blocked out.  Only the spirit resides.   The spirit moves them.  I’ve been to several tom-tom dances, and I’ve danced at each one; much to the delight of my Togolese friends and neighbors.  The days following these dances people will pass me in the village and make the motion of dancing.  They laugh and smile and congratulate me for having joined them.  It was a great way to spend my 61st birthday.  I’m not sure I felt the spirit, but I felt something.  Maybe just a bond between humans and cultures.  Again, I spent a lot of time watching Eric and Emily.  They were full of fun and curiosity about everything that was going on.  I liked seeing the smiles on their faces as I danced.

Catholic Bishop of Togo

Sunday.  Ahepe and church.  This was the most arduous day.  We got up early, dressed up, walked down the road and caught a bush taxi to Ahepe; arriving about a half hour before services started. Komi and Moses accompanied us in the bush taxi from Tchekpo to Ahepe.  About a 20 minute ride.   Church service In Tchekpo generally lasts about two hours.  This however was a big celebration for some new priests, so it was a long, drawn out affair.  The bishop of Togo arrived in a big parade.  There was a lot of music and singing, and of course beautiful African colors and clothes.  To me, the icing on the cake, the reason for going to church at my church in Tchekpo is the procession at the very end of the service.  Oh, I like it all, but my mind does start to wander about an hour and a half into it, and during the sermon which is given in Ewe, the local language.  But I always busy myself with the little kids who clamor to sit by me.  I often make them laugh, by making funny faces at them, and more often than not, a strict Togolese catholic woman will turn around and bop them on the head for being too noisy.  When she turns back around I grimace at the children….and quietly whisper…”.Je suis desolee (I am sorry)” for getting them in trouble. (Note to Michael John….as you said, some things never change!)  All of this makes them laugh even more.  But at the end of every church service, the celebration really begins.  There are trumpets and drums and almost everyone gets out of their seats and processions around the church holding their arms up to the sky, with joyous looks on their faces, praising their God, and their good fortune.  They always sing the same song, which has a lively, hypnotic rhythm and energy.   It’s well worth the wait.  It never disappoints me.  It never fails to give me goose bumps.  Each time I am awed by their joy and faithfulness and their particular understanding of God.  This is something I wanted Emily and Eric to experience.  I knew they would have this same procession at the end of service in Ahepe.  They did.  However it wasn’t quite the same feeling as in my little church in Tchekpo.  But it was uplifting all the same.  The four hour service in the very hot church, with nothing but a foreign language being spoken, I think diminished the finale a little bit. 



After church we went out to the road and tried to catch a bush taxi.  For some reason there were none to be found; especially for five people.  Emily, Eric, myself, Moses and Komi.  The sun was blazing.  It was so hot.  We stood on the side of the road with no shelter.  When a bush taxi would stop they would either try to charge us twice as much as they should because it was three white people, or there simply wasn’t enough room for all five of us.  We were all tired and hot, and the glow of god’s grace was not filtering down to us.  After much frustration and a two…yes TWO hour wait, I finally convinced Moses and Komi to go on without us.  Emily and Eric and I waited a while longer.  Never once did Emily and Eric complain; and on this day there was a LOT to complain about.  I on the other hand, had a little mini meltdown (perhaps not so little).  Finally we decided to hail three moto’s.  They didn’t have helmets, but it was a short ride, so I thought/hoped we’d be ok.  Eric didn’t like the idea of riding on a moto, but at this point we’d all do anything to get home.  When Eric got on his moto, I put my hands on the drivers’ shoulders, looked him in the eye and said, “aller lentement.”  “GO SLOW.”  This obviously is an often repeated and unheeded phrase in Togo.  He nodded with assurance….Then proceeded to take off like a bat out of hell!  Emily and I just stood there with our mouths open, then nervously laughed as we got on our moto’s.  Eric was out of sight.  I was furious.  Neither Eric’s moto driver, nor Eric had any idea where they were supposed to go.  When we reached Tchekpo, at the entrance of my road I had our moto driver stop and let Emily and I off.  I could barely see Eric, wayyyyyyy up the road.  By this time I had lost all patience, and started yelling at my moto driver….punching him in the arm to go get them.  Again…Emily stood there with her mouth open.  She was a little surprised to see her sweet mommy beating this poor Togolese Driver up.  Oh well.  My moto driver managed to catch up with them, and brought Eric back to the road where we were waiting.  Eric’s eyes were as big as saucers.  His hair was standing on end.  Poor guy.  We walked home, each of us exhausted, but laughing and lamenting about our near-death experiences.  I made a big lunch, and we rested In between visitors, for the remainder of the day.

Eric, Leah's mom, Emily at my water pump

Monday, Our Last Day….  Monday is marche day in Tchekpo.  We had decided to spend the morning in Tchekpo.  My friend Raoul had found a driver to come to my house and take us to Lome in the early afternoon.  In the morning Emily and Eric packed everything up.  We ate a good breakfast of eggs, fried potatoes and toast, and then we headed down to the marche.  It’s a small marche compared to Lome or Tesvie, but big and impressive none-the-less, and bustling, noisy, entertaining and interesting.  I work with the Women’s Marche Groupement (assoc.)  Seventy-five of them.  These are the women who sell their goods in the marche.  We were quite the center of attention wandering through the marche.  Honou, Moses, Raoul and Aloughba accompanied us.  Quite an entourage.  I stopped many times, to introduce Emily and Eric.  They were greeted with smiles and salutations.  By this time Emily and Eric had learned the Ewe greeting which delighted my villagers.  We circled the entire marche, stopping to look at this and that.  After the marche, Aloughba, Emily, Eric and I stopped by the Chiefs Palace (Emily 

Eric, Le Chief, Emily

and Eric always laugh when I say palace, but that’s what it is called.)  Emily said….”.THAT’S THE PALACE??!!!”  The description didn’t really jive with what she was looking at.  Eric had brought a bottle of wine for the Chief.  He was happy to meet my children, and had wanted us to come to his house for dinner.  I was sorry to tell him that we had to leave that afternoon.  Of course the Chief being the opportunist that he is didn’t fail to ask Eric to perhaps build a new building for the High School.  It was a nice visit.  The Chief appreciated the wine and was understanding that we could not make it for dinner, and wished them a Bon Voyage.

 

 

It was time to go.  Time to leave Tchekpo.  The car arrived on time, and we had a relaxing ride back to Francoise house in Lome.  We caught a few hours sleep before we had to leave for the airport at 4am.  I worried and fretted that the same driver who had taken me to the airport to pick them up would be able to find the house again, and would arrive on time.  Emily and Eric were too exhausted to worry about it.  The driver came right on time, and we were on our way to the airport.  I was feeling just a little desperate, not wanting to say goodbye, but very satisfied that we’d had such a great time, and for Togo, that everything had gone so smoothly.  When we arrived at the airport we checked in at the outside counter.  I started to go in the building with Emily and Eric and the worker told me I was not allowed.  WHAT???  I was not prepared to let them go at that instant.  “No,” he said.  It seemed final and official.  Eric and Emily both hugged me and started through the door.  At that point the worker asked Eric, “Is this your mother?”  Eric said, “yes.”  Well, he let me pass, and go with them.  It was such a kind, sentimental gesture for him to break the rules for me, because I was their mother.  We sat and waited and visited for about half an hour until they had to go through the gates to board the plane.  We took one last snapshot.  I think that photo speaks volumes.  They went through the doors, turning several times to wave good-bye.  And then I was alone.  But I was alone with memories that will stay with me forever.

Pooofffff....They are gone! But what a trip!

The Peace Corps' mission has three simple goals:
1.  Helping the people of interested countries in meeting their need for trained men and women.
2.  Helping promote a better understanding of Americans on the part of the peoples served.
3.  Helping promote a better understanding of other peoples on the part of Americans.

I know we definitely accomplished Goals 2 and 3.  The people of Tchekpo will never forget you Emily and Eric, and I doubt that you will ever forget them.  Here's what the people in my village now know. Because of you...They know that Americans are kind, compassionate, funny, curious, generous, adventurous and thoughtful.  Thank you.